Guy Code in The Real World
April 15th, 2011
Brian and Matt take on the concept of a “guy code.” Watch below and weigh in with your thoughts:
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If You Don’t Want To, You Don’t Have To: Info About Sexual Coercion
April 14th, 2011
In life, we often have to do things we don’t want to do. Homework, attending your sister’s interpretive dance recital, cleaning, mowing the grass, listening to your tone-deaf friend sing karaoke, the list goes on. One aspect of your life that you will always have complete control over, however, is how far you want to take it with your romantic partner. We’re talking your significant others, your crushes and even someone you might just be hooking up with. When it comes to anything in that arena, you absolutely have a voice and do not have to do anything you don’t want to do.
Today we’re talking about sexual coercion. By definition, sexual coercion is “the act of using pressure, alcohol or drugs, or force to have sexual contact with someone against his or her will; … tactics of postrefusal sexual persistence [used are] defined as persistent attempts to have sexual contact with someone who has already refused”*
If the definition isn’t ringing any bells, think back to last week’s MTV Real World where we saw dating abuse. Nany wasn’t the only girl wronged in that episode. Not only did we see physical violence perpetrated against Nany, emotional and verbal abuse perpetrated against Jordan, Adam’s girlfriend back home, we also saw sexual coercion in the scene with Adam and Tina.
Here’s the clip to remind you:
You see Adam repeatedly pressuring Tina. From all of the little “Come on”s and “I just want a kiss” to him actually feeling her up (you see her move his hand in the clip), he just keeps trying. He does not accept her choice, which is disrespectful and wrong.
We found a really great resource online that we want you to read. This breaks down the definition of sexual coercion really well. The authors Kelsey McCoy and James Oelschlager remind you that:
Pressure comes in various forms: emotional, physical and verbal. If your partner uses any of the following to get you to become physical, he or she could be pressuring you:
• Lying
• Blackmailing
• Guilting
• Threating
• Holding you down
• Yelling
• Badgering
• Name-calling Read more…
Real World Recap: What Did You Think?
April 7th, 2011
Thanks to everyone who tuned in and spoke up during last night’s live blog of the Real World. Brian would like to say a few words to the many people who participated:
We want to make this live watching experience good for you. Please answer some of our questions below so that we can figure out what to improve.
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We applaud MTV for airing a situation where cast members took a stand against dating abuse. A follow-up blog post detailing the episode can be found on MTV’s ACT blog. Take a look below at the preview of their post. The image is a clickable link so you can read more. Read more…
