Last month we shared some of our favorite songs about healthy relationships. We got such great feedback from our readers — and some really great suggestions — that we thought we’d take your suggestions and make another one.

Like last time, this play list has songs about healthy relationships, crushes and break ups — we wanted to represent all facets.

So, without further adieu, here’s our Healthy Relationship Playlist 2.0:

1. Independent Women – Destiny’s Child

2. Taylor Swift – Dear John

3. Anyone Else But You – The Moldy Peaches

4. ‘Til Kingdom Come – Coldplay

5. First Day of my Life – Bright Eyes

6. Home – Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros

7. Your Love [CENSORED] – Nicki Minaj

8. Give Your Heart a Break – Demi Lovato

9. East of the Sun (And West of the Moon) – Frank Sinatra

10. Umbrella – Rihanna

11. Faithfully – Journey

12. Somebody That I Used to Know — Goyte Featuring Kimbra

13. Good Feeling – Flo Rida

14. Better in Time – Leona Lewis

15. Up All Night – One Direction

16. Call Me Maybe – Carly Rae Jepsen

17. A Whole New World – Brad Kane & Lea Salonga

We plan to update the playlist against soon. We’d love to hear your song suggestions, so let us know what your favorite songs are in the comment field below.

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**While Wade and Kelly may be out, the helpline advocates are still here, working 24/7. Call, chat or text us if you need to talk.

For immediate release

To: All loveisrespect staff members
From: All-Knowing Queen Sam, Senior Emperor to the Office Kenny
Date: March 9, 2012
Subject: Immediate Protocol Changes in Communications Department

Effective immediately upon Director of Design and Interactive Communication Wade’s and Communication Marketing Specialist Kelly’s departure to South by Southwest in Austin, Texas, former interns Kenny and Sam will be promoting themselves to Senior Emperor to the Office and All-Knowing Queen (respectively). The following are the mandatory protocol changes laid out by their highnesses which must be followed by all staff members. Resistance is futile.

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Hand-delivered meals. Senior Emperor to the Office Kenny and All-Knowing Queen Sam require that fresh breakfast tacos be hand-delivered before their arrival at 8 a.m. every morning. An exotic snack of varying sorts must be delivered promptly at 10 a.m. for consumption. At 12 p.m. they will expect lunch (from a high-end restaurant) to be placed in front of them. A final delicious snack must be provided for their enjoyment at 4 p.m. Read more…

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Britney Spears recently released a video for her single “Criminal” which tells the story of a girl leaving an abusive partner for a criminal. The video opens with Britney and her partner at an event where he publicly humiliates her by yelling and grabbing her. When he loses control of his temper, he violently drags Britney outside of the party. He screams at her for “disrespecting him” and slaps her hard. Another man steps in and punches the abuser to the ground and ensures that Britney is ok.

While we appreciate a bystander interfering with a public display of domestic violence (though not in the method we would recommend), what happens next is not the healthiest option for Britney. The song begins and Britney jumps into a relationship with her newfound love, a dangerous criminal. Britney immediately shows signs of loyalty to her new partner, though she sings that he is a “loser” and a “bum” who lies and is recognizably unreliable. The lyrics seem to plead with her mother to not worry because she will “be alright” even though her new boyfriend “has got no conscience” and kills for fun.

Britney seems to acknowledge that her new relationship is not healthy, but she seems to be blinded by the physical passion they share as a couple. Because Britney was so clearly unhappy with her abusive ex, she is excited by these intense, positive feelings and may be mistaking them for mutual love.

Britney’s criminal boyfriend influences her to act in ways that she would not otherwise. In the video alone, we see her threaten someone with a gun, steal money and a car and she hides her identity to stay on the run with her boyfriend. This loss of self ultimately leads to isolation.

Even though this video is a dramatization, it brings up elements that do happen in real life. It can be hard to want to immediately replace the void left by an ex, even an abusive one. This may not really give you time to check in with yourself and take care of you.

Also, though a new love may feel exciting, any relationship where you are not free to make your own decisions, you are in serious danger or you are forced to do something you aren’t comfortable with is not healthy. Any time that you are coerced into a situation, someone has used their power to take your self-control away from you. For more about power and control, check out our Power and Control Wheel.

Does any of this sound familiar to you? If you or a friend has experienced something similar to the story in the video or you have any questions, please call, chat or text us and an advocate is waiting to talk to you.

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